I just completed my live speaking event on stage in Oslo with Robert Kiyosaki and a ton of other amazing speakers at Masters of Wealth, Oslo!
It was crazy from start to finish, the hall was packed from end to end.
Right after the event ended, I took the opportunity to try out my new mic and record a quick Periscope stream on stage, where I was able to share with my viewers and followers my #1 tip for getting past the fear of speaking.
I’d be happy to share that secret with you here as well.
How To Get Past The Fear Of Speaking
They say that the fear of public speaking is the #1 fear that most people have – people fear speaking on stage more than heights, the dark, or even death itself.
Back when I first started out, I even shared this fear – that feeling of going on stage and knowing that all eyes are on you and if you mess up, everyone will witness it.
It’s an understandable phobia – but not one that cannot be overcome.
As I mentioned, here in Oslo, the hall was absolutely packed.
This is actually the start of my world tour. I’m going to be doing more events in 9 more cities over the next few months, so if you’d like to come and support me or say hi, I’d really appreciate it.
After doing so many different events over the past few months and speaking to audiences of thousands wherever I go, I’ve pretty much figured out the secret to getting past the fear of speaking.
Here it is:
Don’t focus on you.
The main reason that you even have the fear of speaking in the first place is almost always because you are focusing on yourself.
You’re probably thinking things like:
“What if I look stupid?”
“What if I say something wrong?”
“What if I make a mistake?”
“What if I say something that offends the audience?”
All these thoughts and more stem from worrying what someone else’s thoughts, judgment or criticism will be of you if they heard you speak.
So instead, the #1 strategy for you to get over your fear of speaking would be to shift the focus from YOU to the AUDIENCE.
Because when you are speaking to the audience (whether it’s an audience of 100 people or 5000 people), it shouldn’t be about YOU. It should be about THEM.
Shifting the focus to the audience is the one strategy that will make all the difference, because then you will realize that you don’t care if you look stupid, or if you make mistakes. Your focus will be on serving your audience.
And once you’re focusing on serving your audience, on providing them with the best value that you can… that is when you will find that your fear will gradually go away.
So if you have a fear of speaking in public, just remember that you’re here to serve, and you have a really important message to share with your audience.
As long as:
- your focus shifts away from you to the audience
- you come from the viewpoint of serving
You’ll realize that your fear will simply disappear.
And that’s the secret!
Tomorrow I’ll be heading to Chennai for my next event. It’s going to be really big, and I can’t wait to get there and meet everyone.
Butter chicken and naan, here I come!